A gift for you
One thing is for certain and that is we all have a 24-hour day cycle, time is the one thing that we hold as an equal resource but how we perceive and use this time can be a differentiating factor in how much joy and stress we experience in our day.
There are so many areas of our life that we go through without being present, we are unaware and on automatic. So much of our day involves the necessary functions like our commute to work, multiple work meetings, getting our kids to soccer practice, talking the dog for a walk, eating…they are just the things we do. Yet we still can become present and find time for joy, connection and dare I say relaxation within these fixed parts of our days.
There may be some things in your life that you are rushing through and you actually don’t need to. Recently, my husband and I recognized that we were devouring our meals like “starving dogs” even though there was absolutely no reason to do so. Our daughter who is still very chatting and active at mealtime is able to sit, eat and do mealtime on her own. Leaving my husband and I free to focus on our own experience yet we were still rushing through what could have been pleasurable instead creating indigestion at best and a choking hazard at worst.
Since realizing (or rather being asked by our 6 years old “why we eat so fast”) we have been able to slow things down and enjoy the food as well as our time together. We chew our food, sip on our drinks, talk about our day and discuss our evening plans. We are present!
I started to look at other areas of my life where this may be happening and started to re-frame how I was thinking and the choices I was making. I was amazed to find all kinds of areas that I had once considered automatic to actually be conscious.
Another example is my commute, before leaving each day I fill my travel mug coffee, almond milk, maple syrup and a touch of vanilla (I am serious about my morning drinks) and set an intention to enjoy on my ride in. I also started to take out audiobooks from the library or listen to the podcast on my drive to and from work. Now when I hit traffic I am happy for the extra few minutes to myself…amazing! I no longer think about my commute as stress and have found a way to find joy with the experience.
I also take my lunch, every single day, if someone offered me a 60-minute break in the middle of a busy Saturday with my family, I would be thrilled, yet here it was for me 5 days a week and I was not using it. Instead of aimlessly rushing through my lunches, I now use this time to go for a walk, rest on my treatment table or grab a tea with a work friend. What a gift!
Finally, I started to get active during my daughter’s lessons. I pick swimming lessons during a time that also offers lane swims. I run a few laps around the soccer field while she is at practise or I don’t go to these sessions at all. What was once perceived as something I had to do for my daughter, is now viewed as an opportunity to get out of the house together.
Are there areas in your life that you are speeding through in hopes of finding more time for yourself? Perhaps within these activities, you can find the very thing you are looking for.